Episode 106: Bigorexia: A Symptom of Gym Bro Culture and Muscular Dysmorphia w/ Leslie Bonci


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In this episode of The Up-Beet Dietitians podcast, Emily and Hannah are joined by Sports Dietitian, Leslie Bonci. Leslie dives into Bigorexia and how it affects male athletes, specifically. She dives into who is most likely to struggle with it and some common characteristics that someone who struggles with Bigorexia may develop. With her experience as an NFL dietitian, Leslie shares how even the most elite athletes can struggle with their bodies. Tune in for more!

Leslie is a registered dietitian and board certified specialist in sports dietetics who works with athletes and active people of all levels and abilities through advice that is attainable, maintainable and sustainable with a side of snark and sass!

More about Leslie Bonci

Websites: www.activeeatingadvice.com and http://performance365.org

Instagram: @boncilj

Facebook and Twitter: @lesliebonci


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    welcome back to a brand new episode of

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    the up-beet dietitians podcast today we

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    are joined by a very special guest we're

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    joined by Leslie bonci current Sports

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    dietitian of the Kansas City Chiefs uh

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    Super Bowl champs I don't know a lot

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    about football so I'm feeling kind of

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    awkward saying that I just like

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    stuttered over my words but very

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    exciting for those of you who are Chiefs

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    fans

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    um Leslie is going to talk with us today

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    all about something called bigorexia

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    Leslie is the owner of eating advice and

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    the co-founder of performance 365. she

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    is a registered dietitian a board

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    certified specialist in sports dietetics

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    and she works with athletes and active

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    people of all levels and abilities

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    through advice that is attainable

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    maintainable and sustainable with the

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    side of snark and Sass we are so excited

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    for today's episode

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    enjoy enjoy

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    hello Leslie welcome to the podcast

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    we're so excited to have you here

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    I am so thrilled to be here and talking

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    about something that is a topic that

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    people need to know more about and

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    something that I deal with on a regular

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    basis cool we already if you already

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    tuned and you already saw the title so

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    you know what we're talking about today

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    but Leslie give us kind of some

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    background about who you are and like

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    what you do Day in the Life

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    um work experience past education

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    Hobbies

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    um before we get into the nitty-gritty

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    of bigger Rexy and whatnot let the

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    listeners know kind of who you are and

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    whatnot okay all right well you know I

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    am what I would say a fossil in the

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    dietetics field that being said succinct

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    but not extinct old and bold yes so I've

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    been a registered dietitian for a long

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    time for upwards of 40 Years also a

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    board certified specialist in sports

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    dietetics so a lot of my career has been

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    working with professional Collegiate

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    Olympic High School athlete Club Athlete

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    Performance artist so pretty much every

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    sport every venue every type

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    um and one of the one of the things that

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    I've always found very interesting is

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    that okay it's just women that might

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    have issues surrounding body wrong wrong

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    wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong when we

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    talk about that today that there's a lot

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    of men that are affected too by their

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    body looks my undergrad degree is in

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    Psychology so I think it served me very

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    very well in working with my clients to

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    really get beyond the plate and really

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    take a deep dive and really think about

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    all the things that happened before you

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    do the hand to mouth activity and this

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    is certainly a prime example of that

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    so my specialty area performed nutrition

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    I use that word oversport because

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    everybody defines that differently uh

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    digestive disorders because a lot of

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    people that are active have guts that

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    aren't happy and so how do we reconcile

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    that

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    um dealing with issues surrounding

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    physique however we Define that to be of

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    people not being satisfied with the way

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    their bodies are and wanting to make

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    some changes and also General Wellness

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    or I would say the real people I work

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    with are not necessarily The Surreal

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    people that are a lot of my audience at

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    the end of the day everybody deserves to

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    nourish their body well without the

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    blame without the shame it's just taking

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    all of that out of the equation and

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    finding that recipe to optimize every

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    day wow chef's kiss mines to say my goal

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    now is to have such an amazing elevator

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    pitch like that that was just great I

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    love that

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    well I feel like you did a great job of

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    kind of giving some sneak peeks what

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    we're going to get into so let's get

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    right into it

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    um again as the title says begorexia is

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    the chat today so let's first start by

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    defining that like what the heck even is

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    biggerxia

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    so big oraxia is actually uh it is one

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    of the components of muscle dysmorphia

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    so muscle dysmorphia meaning that people

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    are not satisfied with the way that

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    their body looks and in this particular

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    case it's not being big enough not being

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    muscular enough and you might think well

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    that's ridiculous you know big nobody

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    wants to be big if you have this yes you

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    do and you can look what you see when

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    you look in the mirror is not

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    necessarily what is real I think very

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    very similar to what we might see with

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    individuals that have anorexia sometimes

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    what they perceive to be is not

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    necessarily what is so you know

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    relatively trying to lift more consume

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    more protein It's never enough there's

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    always should be pushing it to the next

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    level and I will I've seen this at my

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    professional with my professional

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    athlete I've seen it at a Collegiate

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    level I have some high school athletes

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    that I'm working with right now now for

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    whom this is an issue as well

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    yeah I wanted to ask if you saw this

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    quite a bit with

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    um I guess all athletes but specifically

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    I was curious about like the

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    professionals like is this a pretty big

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    issue with a lot of them well you know I

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    I worked with the Pittsburgh Steelers I

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    am from Pittsburgh so I worked with them

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    for 24 years and they decided to go a

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    different direction so did I I went to

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    the chief so no bitter feelings I think

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    I got the better deal out of all that

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    but none of it is that every Friday with

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    shirts off Friday for lifting this is

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    just what the Steelers did and the way

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    that the weight room is if you're doing

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    free weights like huge mirrored wall so

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    unless you were closing your eyes which

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    wasn't advised because you smack

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    somebody in the mouth with the way then

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    you could see yourself and you could see

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    yourself next to another body and so you

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    know some of the guys flexing buff and

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    shredded and ripped and toned and other

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    guys a little bit of Wiggle going on so

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    you know for the guys that were already

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    I think of the physique they wanted some

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    of them and we're saying I gotta get

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    bigger for those who weren't quite there

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    are saying ah man I better work harder

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    to get there so not necessarily A

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    positive experience plus it's on a

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    Friday you're getting ready to compete

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    on the weekend this is really the last

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    thing you want to be doing is checking

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    out everybody around you and saying I'm

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    not good enough when really at that

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    point you should be all about hey we are

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    united as a team to get ready to do our

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    business someday yes I I can just like

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    kind of hear the comments we're gonna

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    get kind of like trickling it in my head

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    already and I think those who maybe

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    don't quite understand the

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    what's the word like the danger of

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    bigoraxia I would say like oh what's the

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    problem like they're just trying to get

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    bigger and stronger so I guess what

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    would you say to someone who kind of

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    comes back with that approach

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    well it there's nothing wrong with

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    trying to improve one's body up to a

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    certain point the problem is that when

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    this becomes obsessive so when this

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    becomes obsessed I can't take a day off

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    because oh no all my muscle will go away

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    now the three of us know that's not

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    going to happen but does somebody in the

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    throes of this it's not what they think

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    it's an ultimatum I just can't afford to

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    take time off if I wake up tomorrow my

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    biceps will be gone all right so we have

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    that first issue of overuse injury if

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    you were going to lift seven days a week

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    and there's no rest recovery for the

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    body then you certainly increase that

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    risk of injury

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    secondly is the hours spent well if I'm

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    lifting for an hour and then now let's

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    make it two let's make it three well

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    what if you're a college student now you

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    know I'm going to blow off those classes

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    because I got to go lit hey I was going

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    to go out on a date now not going to do

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    that I gotta go live oh my friends want

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    to go out to dinner whoa can't do that I

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    don't know what it is they're having and

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    I've got to get in that extra protein

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    shake and I have to make sure that I'm

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    not missing any of those reps and so

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    very very isolating very much increasing

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    the risk of injury and also very very

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    skewed about the intake

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    um the young athlete that I'm working

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    with right now who's actually in a

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    facility working on getting himself

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    better so it's a good good intervention

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    with neither but it like so much protein

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    and I need more and I need a protein

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    powder and I need BCAAs and I need to

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    have creatine and I'm going to do that

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    for the exclusion of all else well a

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    then you have an imbalance in which

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    you're eating B there's that rate

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    limiting step if you're just consuming

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    protein and you're not consuming any

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    carbohydrate so you know this is a huge

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    huge problem and then see you're

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    spending copious amounts of money with

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    very expensive urine but that's not

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    where somebody's head is I know that if

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    I have more protein that's going to make

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    me bigger oh man look at the picture of

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    that ripped bicep that looks like a

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    three trunk on the front of the

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    container I will look like that too if I

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    do that and you know the other thing

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    certainly a concern with our younger

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    athletes is they may not be done growing

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    yet they may not be at that Tanner stage

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    of development is going to allow their

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    body to get that degree of big so then

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    it's frustration

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    I've been lifting and that didn't work

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    well maybe I'll take something

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    not necessarily creatine maybe I'll take

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    that's on the marketplace or something

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    that I can order that may be an anabolic

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    steroid and then there are certainly

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    other concerns that come along with that

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    so it's like red flag danger danger all

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    over the place and so it's not just

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    lighting that behavior oh good for you

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    it's like whoa whoa let's put this into

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    perspective and then the other guy will

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    tell you and certainly in these past

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    couple of years is the wonderful world

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    of Zoom but Zoom dysmorphia right

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    because it's just constant everybody's

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    been on their screens all that we're

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    checking yourself out you're comparing

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    yourself to everything you see be it

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    real or surreal and when we're looking

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    at somebody on a screen how do we know

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    if it's real or not ladies this is as

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    real as it gets it like real but you

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    know it isn't always that way there's no

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    Photoshop going on over here but

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    oftentimes there is and so for those

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    very very impressionable individuals

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    it's another concern so they are looking

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    to have an ideal that really doesn't

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    exist but yet that is what they're

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    striving for

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    I didn't even think about the zoom

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    component like because I know with the

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    pandemic and everything we were all like

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    inside and scrolling on your social

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    media and that you're constantly looking

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    but

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    you're also just staring at people and

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    then yourself you're not typically

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    staring I don't think people are

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    typically staring at themselves as much

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    but teach their own

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    but that is such a big component of it

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    and especially in the like young

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    impressionable ages and I'm glad you

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    also brought up when they're growing

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    that component of it because

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    we oftentimes talk about like Jim bro

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    culture a lot

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    and when

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    we don't really touch on like the

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    athletic side of it as much but like

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    especially from like the high school

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    athlete to Collegiate to professional it

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    sounds like there's like a lot of it

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    like seeps in to that like even if they

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    have like the professional help of like

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    a sports dietitian and a sports

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    psychologist

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    they're still at risk of

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    having these like psychological welfares

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    with themselves

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    yeah and and it's the competition right

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    and think okay that's just healthy

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    friendly competition well not always and

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    it really depends upon how somebody

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    interprets it some people are just fine

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    with that and they they kind of know

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    what their upper limit is but for those

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    that are vulnerable for those that are

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    dissatisfied there is no upper limit

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    well I could be better you know I can

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    push myself to do more and then all of a

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    sudden there may be some problems that

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    occur as a result of it and you know

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    honestly that we have kids that are

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    lonely where's your support you know who

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    who is there that you turn to it might

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    be that individual that you follow on

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    Zoom or people that you work with at the

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    zoom or at the at the gym or a trainer

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    or whatever maybe parents are busy maybe

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    parents are not even aware of what's

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    going on until a problem has developed

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    yes and speaking of all that this will

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    take an extra like hour of our time

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    today but I would love to know your

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    thoughts on the whole liver King thing

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    we recorded like a little series of that

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    back a few months ago but we won't get

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    into it because I'm sure that's just a

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    whole can of worms but that's exactly

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    what I think of when I think of

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    impressionable High School College age

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    boys who are using him as like a role

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    model and it's all about bigger bigger

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    bigger bigger all the time well you know

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    because I always when I am talking to my

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    audiences and even working with teams or

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    working with individuals to buy four Ps

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    so p number one is physiology and

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    certainly for young athletes there's

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    something to be said for those Tanner

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    stages of development if you're not

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    there yet guess what you're not going to

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    be there until your body is where it

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    needs to be and if you push push push

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    push too much you may be delaying that

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    uh debility ability to mature because

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    you're just incurring more stress as a

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    result so that's issue number one two is

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    physique and we know not all bodies are

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    going to be the same that's the way that

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    it is not everybody's going to be that

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    same height not everybody's going to

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    have that same frame size there are

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    things that we can control and things

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    that we cannot control and the variable

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    that oftentimes one is controlling

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    manipulating fluid intake not always

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    good is manipulating muscle mass good

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    and bad but again there's an upper limit

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    to how it is that that can happen then

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    we have the performance aspect strength

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    speed stamina recovery injury prevention

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    and biggerxia kind of way not

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    necessarily more strength if you're not

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    doing everything you need to yes

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    increase risk of injury longer to

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    recover you have delayed sleep all those

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    things that can happen and then

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    practicality and so to answer your

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    question about the liver cane uh

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    practical

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    I don't think so is first of all you

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    know kind of like do the math and look

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    at the science and really think about

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    this even if somebody said I'm just

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    eating animal Source Foods all the time

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    or meat all the time like all right

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    there's an upper limit for the amount of

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    muscle that you were going to put on

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    because you need to have carbohydrate as

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    part of it and then it's like oh let's

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    peel away the layers anabolic steroids

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    and so you know it's just one of those

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    things I've worked in this area long

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    enough remember one of my strength

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    coaches saying you can always tell when

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    you look at the delts and you look at

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    the width of that delt it's like what is

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    natural and what is not or oh my neck is

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    the size of a tree trunk that's not the

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    way most people's necks are and so those

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    are some of those little giveaways and

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    then certainly the other issues we worry

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    about with steroids like death I mean

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    this is a problem I'm not joking it is a

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    huge huge problem the Roid Rage all

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    these types of things it can be so

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    incredibly dangerous so every time

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    there's somebody out there though those

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    are the influencers as far as I'm

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    concerned it's like tick off it just

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    ticks me off it's like get out delete go

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    away

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    sinfluencers I love that I love that too

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    oh my gosh

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    oh yeah it's that's a whole other thing

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    yeah we recorded like two three episodes

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    on it because there was a whole can of

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    worms that's just it's a it's a lot it's

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    a lot I want to hear so we've talked a

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    lot about like symptoms and

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    characteristics of bigoraxia and then

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    like maybe if some parents are listening

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    or like even other people who are like

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    friends with people who they might be

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    like see some of these behaviors it

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    might be concerned about them what are

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    some of the risk factors that play the

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    most into big erexia that might put

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    someone at a little bit more risk yeah I

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    mean certainly

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    um somebody's spending a lot of time

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    alone if somebody is already having

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    issues around low self-esteem that's a

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    big one uh you know somebody who's

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    constantly been like complaining or

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    voicing things about body or you know I

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    don't like the way clothes fit or I mean

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    I could be doing more I think that all

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    those kinds of things should be uh you

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    know should be some some little red

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    flags and then also I think for people

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    in the house

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    you have to be aware of what's going on

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    with your kids what are they you know

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    let's not walk around blindfolded let's

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    actually pay attention at the table put

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    the phone away see what your kids are

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    doing have them at the table oh just

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    eating protein oh that might be a little

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    bit of an issue or constantly asking to

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    buy protein powders or whatever I mean

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    most kids are not always having uh money

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    to buy things so they got to ask is as

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    parents you know sometimes they have to

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    be the bad guy

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    I am a parent and I am a grandparent too

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    I'm not never a bad person to my

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    grandchildren because they can have

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    everything but for my own kids but

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    like okay because I knew like no we're

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    not going to do that because there are

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    things that I'm worried about so

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    involvement is really really key we

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    don't have to be friends with our kids

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    we do have to be parents to our kids and

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    that means providing good guidance to

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    them I love that well I think the the

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    secondary part to that question then

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    would be if either a parent sees a kid

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    struggling or maybe someone sees a

    17:09

    friend struggling like Emily had said or

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    if maybe they see themselves struggling

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    with this what would be

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    some tips you could give to kind of

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    overcome this and work through biggerxia

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    yeah and and I you know I when I no

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    matter what somebody's dealing with is

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    it is perfectly fine and okay to say I'm

    17:28

    worried about you if the first thing we

    17:30

    have to do is we have to establish

    17:33

    Rapport and gain trust and that's not

    17:35

    right away pointing a finger and

    17:37

    accusing what are you doing why are you

    17:39

    doing that so much is you know I'm

    17:41

    really worried about you just seem like

    17:43

    a little edgy you just seem a little bit

    17:45

    more tense you just seem more sad you

    17:48

    just don't seem like yourself can you

    17:51

    tell me what what's going on I mean

    17:53

    that's that's got to be the start to all

    17:56

    of this again we don't want to

    17:58

    necessarily be bad guys but I think

    18:00

    sometimes it's really important to

    18:01

    enforce some rules about this and say no

    18:05

    I'm not going to go to the gym seven

    18:07

    days a week if we have a parent whose

    18:10

    child is working with a personal trainer

    18:11

    talk to that personal trainer ask them

    18:14

    what it is that they're doing for

    18:16

    heaven's sakes their services aren't

    18:17

    free it's come on we have to be part of

    18:21

    that solution and say you know look it's

    18:23

    going to be maybe four times a week Max

    18:25

    and I really want you to take a look at

    18:28

    my child what you're recommending for

    18:29

    them because I am really worried about

    18:32

    this so again we have to be active

    18:35

    participants in what's going on with our

    18:37

    kids not just hanging around in the

    18:40

    background absolutely cannot do that and

    18:42

    then I think as well the need for

    18:45

    therapy I mean not everybody does but if

    18:47

    the majority of people that are dealing

    18:49

    with issues around muscle dysmorphia and

    18:52

    specifically big araxia can't handle it

    18:55

    themselves

    18:56

    even if a parent is professionally a

    18:59

    therapist hands off when it comes to our

    19:01

    own kids absolutely cannot do that is

    19:05

    yes the finding is kind of like what I

    19:07

    would say this is the pit crew right the

    19:09

    people that surround that athlete so a

    19:12

    therapist a sports dietitian not

    19:15

    registered diet you have to have

    19:16

    somebody who understands activity

    19:18

    otherwise it's not going to go anywhere

    19:20

    and I do think that it is critically

    19:22

    important for the PCP to be involved

    19:25

    let's do some blood work make sure that

    19:27

    everything is within normal limits or if

    19:29

    it's out of limits got to find that out

    19:31

    we don't like surprises on the back end

    19:33

    or unintended consequences yeah I mean

    19:36

    it sounds so similar to any other eating

    19:38

    disorder like having a

    19:39

    multi-disciplinary team in place is

    19:41

    going to be so key for that recovery

    19:44

    well it is and you know this is not a

    19:47

    badge of honor oh good for me the bigger

    19:49

    I am the better I am it's like no and

    19:52

    that's not and the answer is not okay

    19:54

    never again go and live but

    19:56

    that's how we lose trust right away that

    19:58

    doesn't work but the purpose of working

    20:02

    with somebody is to get it out of our

    20:04

    own head and let somebody else provide

    20:06

    the guidelines tell me how often I can

    20:09

    live show me what it is I'm supposed to

    20:12

    eat what else can you recommend are

    20:15

    there any supplements that would help

    20:17

    and complement what I'm doing and not be

    20:19

    a deterrent in any way shape or form we

    20:22

    are supposed to be the Fountain of

    20:23

    Knowledge and as the as the

    20:26

    professionals we have to interact with

    20:28

    each other so it looks like a united

    20:30

    front well my PCP said this and want to

    20:31

    know but the trainer said there's

    20:32

    another psychologist said this like

    20:34

    absolutely wrong because then again that

    20:37

    person's right out the door and they

    20:38

    will never come back again

    20:40

    yep I've seen that happen in outside of

    20:43

    Sports Nutrition like just different

    20:45

    providers with different nutrition

    20:47

    recommendations it just does not go very

    20:49

    well

    20:51

    go well my rule of thumb is always and

    20:53

    it's just my personality is I need to

    20:55

    make my client laugh and I mean part of

    20:58

    that is because right away detention

    21:00

    goes away right if you're smiling if

    21:02

    you're laughing then you're not

    21:04

    like oh okay well anyway I'm out of out

    21:07

    of my mind I'm crazy it's just the way

    21:09

    it is but that's my way of gaining trust

    21:11

    and if I do that I mean I I would say

    21:14

    it's like you know stop getting to know

    21:16

    you getting to know all about you that

    21:18

    we might do that a session or two before

    21:20

    we even start to talk about protein

    21:22

    intake is the first thing out of my

    21:23

    mouth that person's out the door I gotta

    21:26

    find the common ground with them what do

    21:28

    you want to talk about what are your

    21:29

    concerns how can I be of help to you so

    21:32

    but I always say you know we're not

    21:34

    writing the screenplay they are our goal

    21:36

    is to tweak it our goal is to edit it

    21:38

    not to author it and so it is really

    21:41

    important that we listen and then we can

    21:45

    respond not the other way around exactly

    21:48

    food police badge off

    21:52

    I feel like we talked about so many

    21:54

    great things and you've provided us with

    21:57

    such a wealth of knowledge and also say

    21:59

    everything so well I feel like the way

    22:02

    you pitch everything I'm like oh my gosh

    22:04

    yes

    22:05

    tacking that away for later but

    22:08

    we're at kind of the point where we like

    22:11

    to kind of like jokingly say

    22:13

    if our listeners were to listen to one

    22:16

    part of the episode and you could sum it

    22:18

    all up or like give them one last piece

    22:21

    of knowledge advice information whatever

    22:23

    it is to leave them with what would you

    22:27

    want to say about all this

    22:28

    what I would say is that we all only get

    22:31

    one body in this life you know there's

    22:33

    organs that can be transplanted entire

    22:35

    bodies can and so rather than be the

    22:38

    enemy with ourselves let's find the way

    22:40

    to be the Ally we don't have to love

    22:43

    everything about our bodies each and

    22:45

    every day but at the end of the day are

    22:47

    we paying attention to our moves are we

    22:49

    paying attention to our shoes are we

    22:51

    paying attention to our snooze all those

    22:53

    things are equally important so it's all

    22:56

    about the nurture not the torture with

    22:59

    permission over Omission just like

    23:01

    amazing phrase catchphrase catchphrase I

    23:04

    love it I'm like getting so much of the

    23:06

    out of this I just love it well Leslie

    23:09

    before we get into our bonus question

    23:10

    which by the way for our listeners if

    23:12

    you want to hear a bonus question with

    23:13

    Leslie be sure to join the beat Deets

    23:15

    bonus segment and we will have that

    23:16

    available for you but before we do if

    23:18

    listeners listening to this episode only

    23:20

    will you please let them know where they

    23:22

    can find you if they want to learn more

    23:24

    okay so my website is

    23:27

    activeeatingadvice.com I am on Instagram

    23:30

    at bonclj Facebook and Twitter at

    23:34

    lesliebontzi

    23:36

    love it we will have it all in the show

    23:38

    notes for you guys to check out well

    23:40

    thank you for tuning in today's episode

    23:42

    everyone thank you so much Leslie for

    23:44

    joining us this was an absolute pleasure

    23:46

    we were oh I don't think we even said

    23:48

    this during the recording we said this

    23:50

    off here but Leslie presented at fincy

    23:54

    this past October 2022 and Hannah and I

    23:57

    were absolutely stoked by your fan girl

    24:02

    presentation we were and we're like oh

    24:04

    my gosh do we think we could get her on

    24:06

    the podcast so we're like let's see and

    24:08

    it was just so fun to bring you back on

    24:11

    and hear you talk about something you're

    24:14

    so passionate about and this is

    24:15

    something we've never talked about big

    24:17

    eraxia before so I know that our

    24:20

    listeners will absolutely take away so

    24:22

    much from this thank you for having me

    24:24

    thanks for listening guys we will see

    24:26

    you next week otherwise have a great

    24:28

    rest of your day thanks guys bye


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