Episode 101: Navigating Motherhood in a Diet Culture-Infested World w/ Sammy Previte & Jenna Werner
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In this episode of The Up-Beet Dietitians podcast, Emily and Hannah are joined by podcast icons and hosts of the What the Actual Fork podcast, Sammy Previte and Jenna Werner. They dive into the challenges of how a weight-centric, diet culture-infested society impacts mothers and has affected them personally. Jenna and Sammy also share invaluable advice for how to navigate motherhood with a history of disordered eating or eating disorders and they leave great tips for mothers trying to end the diet cycle. Tune in for more!
Sam Previte and Jenna Werner are Registered Dietitians and Intuitive Eating Counselors fighting the good fight against diet culture. Together they host What The Actual Fork Podcast and own their own private practices Find Food Freedom and Happy Strong Healthy, respectively.
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Sammy Previte
Jenna Werner
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hello everyone welcome back to another episode of the Abby dietitians we have
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some guests with us today so we have Sam kravit and Jenna Warner who are both
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registered dietitians and intuitive eating counselors who are fighting the good fight against diet culture together
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they host what the actual Fork podcast and own their own private practices find
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food freedom and happy strong healthy respectfully today with Sam and Jenna we talk all
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about navigating motherhood through diet culture which is a great episode for our listeners we just know because Emily and
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I can't talk about it all that much since we're not mothers so this one is going to be great for all of our
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listeners who are mothers and are kind of struggling with navigating that with all the crazy diet culture stuff so it's
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a great episode we hope you enjoy it we love talking with these gals enjoy the episode
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all right well Sammy and Jenna welcome to the podcast thank you for being here thank you guys so much for having us
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thanks for having us morning very early morning episode very early our listeners
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know it's like the opposite for us Emily and I always record like at the end of the work day so there's like natural light coming in for the first time ever
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it's weird if we look better than usual that's why if you end up watching this on YouTube but thank you for being here
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we're so excited um today we're talking about a new topic for our listeners and I think it's going to be a really important one because
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Emily and I can't speak to it personally we're not mothers we were joking beforehand before you guys got on that
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we have mothers so we can relate in that way like we've come from mothers we know how diet culture has impacted them but
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we haven't had that personal experience so we're excited today to go into that and talk about how to navigate
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motherhood in like such a deity and weight-centric culture um before we do will the two of you kind
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of walk us through like what a day in the life looks like what you do Hobbies all that fun stuff
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then you want to go first sure why not um so A Day in the Life wow it never
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looks the same that's for sure but uh so I am a registered dietitian certified
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intuitive eating counselor certified personal trainer and the founder of Fine Food Freedom so that's a virtual Private
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Practice made up of a team of intuitive eating professionals and also most
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importantly the co-host of what the actual Fork podcast so there's an array of things from
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counseling to managing a team working with a team social media Jenna and I
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talk a lot about on our podcast that we frequent the the tick tock platform uh
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so social media takes up a lot of it and then PR you know uh have actually Four
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work trips coming up in the next like two months so that's stressing me out
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um but work from home life and then as Jenna and I said before we we clicked
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record between I have daycare Jenna has a nanny lots of sicknesses flying around
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so currently my nine-month-old daughter is home sick so you think you have a plan of what
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you're gonna do for work and then your child's like haha just kidding so you
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just never know what you're gonna get over here at the private household I think for me so I actually I'm only
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working part-time hours um I am Jenna Warner registered dietitian owner of happy strong healthy
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and um co-founder of The dietitian business Collective and co-host of the what the actual work podcast
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um I chose to work part-time hours after I had my son because being a stay-at-home mom was always something
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that I thought that I wanted um and I wanted to give that a shot to some extent but in my heart it
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leaving my career fully just wasn't something that I could do I worked so
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hard to get to where I am and I wanted to keep a piece of it but it's really hard to do it all and flexibility has
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become one of my greatest strengths and also continues to be my biggest weakness and I think that that's something that
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motherhood has taught me overall in addition to the topic that we'll cover today
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um with a big teacher in my motherhood Journey as well um but like I said so I work part-time
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from home with my son with a nanny who is sick today so I hear his pitter
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patter in the background like literally right behind my office um hopefully you guys don't uh he's too
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lots of high energy it's really fun it's an absolute blessing to be able to be here for all of the first and the things
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and to share them with him but again you know you watch a lot of TV shows I don't know if you guys watch the show sex life
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I loved that show but there was an episode on that recently um where you know one of the women said
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that she chose to to be a mom after she had her kids and leave her career behind and you know after her kids were grown
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up tried to go back into the workforce and it was really hard and that's something that like this morning when I
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got that text at 6am I was like I should just quit but you know to just quit to come back to it one day because
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I know I'll want to would be harder so balancing all of that is my current
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superpower I like to say and I'm terrible at it but we're still going
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you're amazing at it life just loves to throw terrible curveballs like Jenna and
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I the last month if you listen to our podcasts have been completely unhinged
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covid norovirus the flu like it's just never
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ending so it's actually recorded an episode where I didn't know I had covered yet and I was like you sound so
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sexy I was like really because I feel like I'm dying oh I also had double pink I forgot that one so like let's just
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drop that bomb that like we're gonna tug all things motherhood today but Jenna and I say like the one thing no one told
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us like if you're thinking about having kids you will be sick like all the time Non-Stop and that is like in addition to
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being a mom in addition to being a dietitian you know whatever so there's no way of people but we knew this but
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there was this like Bluey mums Instagram post this morning that I saw that was like as a kid I always thought my
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parents never got sick but I realized they were sick all the time they just didn't have time to be sick so I never
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knew it you're so right you're so right right my mom would like she was a she's a Superhero too like we always talk
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about that she works full-time I'm one of seven kids so she's just like superhero he's amazing I love her
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um but like when she was sick like life just went on like she went to work or was with the kids and everyone else got
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sick of course too she's caring for like five six seven sick kids it's just yeah that's the bomb like you said Sam of the
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episode today is just I think motherhood is hard period like in general it's super tough
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but it's actually a good segue into our main topic today and it's also hard because of diet culture and the white
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Centric piece of everything too so I guess the big overlying question to kind of get started is how does our
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weight-centric diet culture impact mothers in a general sense big question and I see Jenna like
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shaking her head I'm like where do we start Where Do We Begin well it's funny like even just talking about what we were talking about and then overlaying
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this question with it I simply can't imagine
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being a mother dealing with all of the things that we deal with working full-time and yet and then and like
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having that extra layer of diet culture of I need to get um heavy air quotes I need to get my body back right like I
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need to go on a diet I need to count my calories I need to get my workout in like Jenna said it best before the
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superpower of flexibility as a mother like you think you have a plan for the day and you have to be able to adapt and
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change and be okay with it and come to a place of acceptance
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so my head goes to like the first thing I think about is just I have so much
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compassion and empathy for mothers who are so wrapped up in diet culture still
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because that adds a layer of stress and expectation that is completely unnecessary but probably feels so valid
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and so necessary to them in those moments and just to add on to that too because that's so true Sam the thing
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that I have a couple since that having kids I've attracted more postpartum
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um clients in like the recent couple years and I have one client specifically who said something to me very recently
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um that it was so easy to eat and nourish her body and be a quote-unquote
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because for her she's not there yet an intuitive eater um while she was pregnant because she
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felt like her body had a bigger purpose and then now the struggle postpartum that she's feeling which I know so many
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women can relate to is you know we go back to in their minds being just a body
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that's supposed to look a certain way and no longer creating life so it becomes harder
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with all that pressure and you layer on the lack of sleep and the lack of routine and the lack of like just
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self-care that you might be used to and it makes it really really challenging if
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you are not in a space where you've made peace with food and your body in addition to the fact that like the early
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months of postpartum like I just remember I have this like one very vivid memory of like hysterically crying
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because like you can't stand up like I had a level three tear I know Sam can relate to that like I was bed bound for
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a little while like wearing diapers myself trying to figure out how the to take care of a baby that I like just
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you know never done that before breastfeeding all the things and so I was very reliant on my husband to feed
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me because like I couldn't do that and I just remember hysterically crying because he made a snack wrong it's like
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I was like I don't like this like I don't want it I'm like layering on you
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know fear of food and food rules and all of that on top of these emotions can
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make this phase of your life this season so much more challenging so I think Sam said it best like empathy is the biggest
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word and it making the decision to heal
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yourself prior to this phase of life for me personally was the greatest gift I've
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ever given myself so true I can't imagine going through this like not already healed and and I
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use healed Loosely I want to put air quotes on that because like your relationship with food and body is always changing and it's not this
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perfect like end point or destination but I just want to piggyback off what Jenna said like those early postpartum
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months like you are bleeding you are leaking you are just crying like from
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every orifice and um again like when I hear stories or see
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tick tocks of you know women at week three going to a workout class or
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something I'm like what the actual is going on and again everyone has their
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own experience maybe they didn't tear maybe they had this like magical birth that was nothing like mine but it just I
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can't imagine having that expectation so for people listening like it takes at
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least a year postpartum for your hormones to even regulate and your body to heal your uterus to shrink back down
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all of these things if you're breastfeeding too that's another Journey that continues to extend the postpartum
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hormones so you have for anyone listening you have permission to rest
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whether you're postpartum or not but since this is a very specific postpartum episode like you don't have to get your
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body back you shouldn't get your body back because you now just birthed a human life out of it and it will never
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be the same yeah kind of a big deal kind of a big deal well I think the workout example is
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a really great one do you guys have any other I mean examples of how I'm sure you do of how diet culture food Gill
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body shaming like how those present themselves in motherhood specifically
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I think as your children age too like it doesn't get any easier because you start
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to realize and recognize I have a son not a daughter but it doesn't make a difference but I know you see a lot of
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posts about like you know being able to heal yourself so that you don't put diet culture on to specifically the poster
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typically about daughters but I think it's just as important with sons with
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any child um because you are modeling behavior and
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everything that you do as a parent and food is one of those things that like you really do most often with your kid
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right so the language that you use around food the way that you describe
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certain foods like all of this starts to matter in ways that it never did before because you have these tiny ears
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listening like even this morning my son wanted only wanted an ice pop for breakfast and like instead of me saying
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like we don't have ice pot we don't have sugar for breakfast which is like something that maybe old versions of me
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would say it's like trying to explain like breakfast foods and like why we
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need types of energy in the morning and if you want this ice pop if you really need it we can have it with our eggs
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right like those types of experiences if you don't have peace with food if you
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don't have an understanding of food neutrality that becomes another level of
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stress I imagine that then pushes On to the Next Generation and you can see how
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that unfolds throughout their little tiny lives I love that I love that so much and I I
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feel like we come from different perspectives because so Jenna's son Noah is over two now right he just turned two
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yeah and Sienna my daughter is nine months so although she clearly has ears
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and is listening to things she's just developmentally not at certain stages yet so I still think my brain jumped to
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things that maybe I'm personally struggling with in ways of so I'm out of I would say like the
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looming postpartum like that fourth trimester people call it starting to feel like myself more but I still feel
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like with my own relationship with food things are coming up that I just didn't maybe expect and so for me it's not
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necessarily like morality with food nothing like that but when you have a mother or when you become a mother I
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know Jenna said earlier recognizing like self-care is so important but it's so hard to prioritize self-care
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when you are caring for the this tiny human that you just love so much and created so
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for me I noticed like food is feeling right now and I don't think I've ever
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even talked about this on our podcast um food is feeling very annoying to me
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like I have peace with it it's neutral but I'm like I don't want to deal with
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it right now like it just feels like an extra thing now in my relationship with my husband he's always been the chef in
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our house he loves to cook he cooks every meal so I'm so grateful and I
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recognize How Lucky I Am for that in many ways um that he will like Place food in front
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of me and I can eat it um but I just I just said in this this
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season of life right now food just feels like something else I have to do and so
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sitting with that and Wrecking that as like all right what's going on here
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let's get curious about this where is this coming from and being able to
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recognize like hey you still gotta fuel yourself this is an act of self-care and
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so again how Jenna said like it's been such a great gift that like we have food freedom and we have this awareness of
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intuitive eating going into motherhood because if I didn't I'd be like it I'm not gonna eat like I don't have time
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for this for whatever reason in my brain it's not being prioritized correctly like obviously if I Fuel and nourish
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myself properly it's gonna make me a better better mother it's gonna make me a better dietitian Etc so
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that's one that I think is just so interesting and I think that plays into as well that like your relationship with
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food is always changing it's an it's a very long journey so just because like
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you have food Freedom right don't apply morality to food it doesn't mean that your relationship with food is just
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and you're never going to have obstacles with it again um so that one comes up for me and then
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just the comparison of motherhood I mean diet culture is one
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thing mom culture is another let me know
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and culture is an additional culture on top of diet culture right so it's like culture whether it's in your early
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postpartum days when you have postpartum anxiety undiagnosed like myself and
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you're Googling everything and texting Jenna at like four in the morning like is this normalish like what do I do you
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know so there's all the like first time Mom anxieties but then with diet culture
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looped into it it's well why don't I look like this person yet right why am I
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not working out yet why am I not going on walks yet why you know why am I still
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in diapers what like like literally your brain will just do this comparison trap
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of everything in comparison is the thief of Joy so I think that is not only a
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diet culture thing but it is very valid in motherhood as well I I just I unmuted
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to basically say the exact same thing you read my mind like you normally do but I would also just say that we are
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too you know anti-diet dietitians who have been on their own own healing
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Journeys for many moons uh in many years in this postpartum life that we're both
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living and I recognize how the the question that was asked like examples of
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diet culture food guilt body shaming Etc and motherhood like Sam said social
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media exists this is something that our parents didn't deal with you know you we
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together are not comparison comparing ourselves to people right you're
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comparing yourselves to celebrities to influencers to Mom talk to all of these
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things that like never existed before and with the understanding that we have
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of what filters and non-reality Instagram versus reality is right like
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you're comparing your day one to somebody's sixth kid right like all of
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these things now put this pressure on that is just it's can make this journey
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so much harder I mean even for myself I was I have cousins that are very close
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in age to me and I was the third to have like babies very close in line and I like saw one cousin who you know seemed
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to be having this like very easy experience in my eyes postpartum and like she was back to her routine and
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like looked a certain way and I was like I'm gonna mirror that like didn't happen
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it's like none of it for me happened right but that's just one example you
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know for somebody who is struggling or has a history of disordered eating or eating disorder or just any type of
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um struggle with food and body this phase of Life plus those hormones with
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the world that we live in today can be very very challenging I feel like one every both everything both of you said
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was so amazing and so great and things obviously hand and I don't think about
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um but being a mom really is being a superhero and then you add on all of
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these extra challenges that Society just like throws at you and it's crazy
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because I look like in my mom and I I had the like perfect what is it I forgot
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the face like when you like when everything looks perfect I'm like my mom's doing everything so well but
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probably not I was but like I had this like kid filters on what you just said Jenna though I feel
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like is a perfect segue into our next question where you were talking about people who have a history of disordered
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eating or eating disorders and you both have gone through you're in the anti-diet space you're also dietitian so
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you have that education behind you to kind of understand what's going on in your head
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but what about people who are not dietitians um maybe are kind of in the anti-diet
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space or not at all and this is their first time hearing about it how can they navigate this
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weight-centric diet culture World in motherhood they're just adding all these
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component sounds to the question um if they
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are not do not have this previous education where kind of do you think they should start what do you think they
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should start thinking about any of that love the love all of these questions so
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my head the first thing that I thought of when you said that is kind of jumping
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off of Jenna's previous points coming back to social media detoxing that social media right and we
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say that all the time even if you're not in motherhood but the same thing goes
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for in motherhood you should be following all of the anti-diet intuitive
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eating accounts help at every size following people who exist in bodies
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that don't look like yours different races genders sexualities diversifying your feed and then of course finding we
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are grateful and lucky that we exist in this time period where there are not only those niches that I just said but
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then that specifically go down like a motherhood hole within the haze you know
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an intuitive eating field so finding accounts that support you that make you
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feel Pleasant if you see a post and it triggers you into anxious thoughts even
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if that creator that wasn't their intention mute their account unfollow them for right now you don't need to be
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seeing that um so so that would be a huge one that
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that comes to mind for me and then finding your support system whatever
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that looks like for you like Jenna oh my God I could probably get emotional right now I feel like never cried on a podcast
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before holy here we go so Jenna was that person for me that I could just
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like voice memo in the middle of the night and um
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damn Jenna so you're having a weird cries
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so let's add that in but I'm not apologizing for my emotions I'm pleased
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on that in therapy so it's you know in addition to Jenna I had other other few
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moms that were like on almost the exact same postpartum Journey as me with like their kids ages so we were in those you
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know first weeks and months together where it's it's voice memoing each other
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in the middle of the night to know like oh okay you don't have to get back to me right away but like the risk they
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usually were responding because they were also up you know at 3am so just finding people that have the same morals
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and values and heart as you where you can show up as
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your authentic messy self and know that you're gonna have a safe space to do
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that so not only with friends but then also professional support so
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whether it's finding intuitive eating dietitians obviously we have many on this podcast
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right now so finding professional support because just
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because you know how to eat like hand to mouth to swallow digest absorb does not
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mean that we know how to have peace with food um and so in addition to your own like
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unit of support finding that professional support as well well it'll be hard to add anything on to
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that one but the only thing that she did didn't say
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that I would add on to is just communication so if you're having a
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child whoever your partner is during that process I think it's really
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important to be honest with them about how you're feeling and what you need I
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think for myself personally I've shared on our podcast like I
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I was told once be when I was deep in my disordered space that I would never get
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pregnant because of my own disordered habits if mine was more Fitness but obviously Fitness and food went hand in
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hand um and I never voiced that to my husband and how that impacted that whole process
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so when I got pregnant which was you know a blessing and also a surprise at
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the time that those feelings and emotions of how my body was changing and
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how I was feeling felt really heavy and if I wasn't able to voice that to him I
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know that my experience pregnancy and postpartum would have been a lot more challenging than it already
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was so I think really what I'm trying to like button up here is communication
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with someone that you trust hopefully your partner if you're having a child but them is so important because they
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don't know as as much as they love their children and as much as they love their
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role hopefully as a parent they don't know what it's like to actually carry
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and create the baby and to push it out like you know and like
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experience so I love my husband he is an absolute the greatest father in the
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entire world and he says to me even to this day like I don't know what's going
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on in your head right so like you have to talk to me so when it comes to being
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a parent and sharing responsibility and also dealing with you know your old
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feelings about food and body coming up because they never will go away in
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recovery it's how you handle them right so you know knowing that they're gonna pop up
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being able to explain what you are feeling and what you need from that
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person I think is the best advice I can give you and if you can't do that with
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them one-on-one that's okay too but find a way to improve that communication like
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we went to therapy prior to pregnancy and I think that that helped so much
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with the ability to share emotions and be able to communicate because listen the postpartum anxiety depression rage
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anger all of those things that I experience like if I couldn't tell him like I don't hate our child I'm just
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freaking the out right now that nothing in my life feels consistent or enough and I don't have a grasp on
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anything and I'm unraveling right now like this is what I'm feeling if I
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couldn't say that I don't even want to know like where I would be right now
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like but it it's so important and to be able to like know expect and not
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question what you're feeling but to be able to communicate it with somebody
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that you trust yes uh this episode is going to be just like a gold mine for our listeners
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because we haven't got everything like you're gonna be probably like bawling their eyes out like they're gonna just
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love this so much so you guys are just giving out such great information we appreciate it so so much
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um grateful oh um I think that's kind of like a general good place to end for like our big
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overarching questions that we have for you guys but we want to kind of leave this space here now to allow you to kind
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of add anything else we may have missed like any questions that uh maybe we didn't ask you have something you want
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to answer anyway um to kind of speak on any any other topics on this so
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yeah well I want to add to what Jenna had just said as well it got me thinking
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that if we have listeners that maybe don't have children and or are maybe considering having children one day
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pretty much every single thing we've spoke about you can apply to right now
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like it's just that motherhood I feel like adds this additional like Dynamic to it so everything that Jenna was just
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speaking on reminded me of I believe it's principle number eight I don't have the numbers memorized but coping with
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emotions with kindness with intuitive eating is all about being able to name
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what you're feeling and say what do I actually need right now and not only
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does Diet culture make that very hard to do but also I'm a recovering people
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pleaser I know a lot of women can also agree with that not that only women are
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people Pleasers but the way our society teaches us to be the good girl be the polite person you know don't don't share
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your opinion stay in line kind of thing and so when you people please you end up
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resenting the people that you shape-shift for because you don't
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actually want to do whatever is going on or I don't know if I'm necessarily
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voicing that the right way but that's what I thought of when Jenna was speaking is is the communication it's like that should
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be number one like yes the things I said were important but like let's like talk like really highly what Jenna said
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because not only in your postpartum days but in marriage being able to like like
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I love how you share Jenna and I'll happily share too Luke and I went to therapy before having children we also
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went through four took four years of infertility from the moment Sienna was born and we went through three rounds of
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IVF so the amount of communication understanding that had to be worked on
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and it isn't it crazy that therapy is literally just communicating to other
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humans but like we're not taught that usually unless you have a parent who was
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a therapist or understood emotional intelligence and whatnot so those are
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things that I think are so important to highlight again because it doesn't matter where you are in your journey of
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life or what season of life you're in communication whether it be with a partner or just other human beings in
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general is like one of the most important skills that you can master
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um and not master but work on and practice uh and so I'm so happy you brought that
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up Jenna because I thought that was just such a wonderful point it's such a great add-on I think the only other thing that
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I would add on is two things one I don't want to scare any of the future parents
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because motherhood is legitimately the greatest thing that's ever happened to me I'm so glad you said that share share
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something that you love about motherhood and I will too because we need to like make sure sure people aren't scared
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because it's hard but it's great I will tell you it's the days like today where like I had something every hour on
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the hour of the day I'm prioritizing what I can but like I'm so excited at 10
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o'clock to go to Gymboree with my son we went yesterday and he didn't stop moving for legitimately 45 minutes every parent
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was like is he sweating I'm like he sure is but like it is such a gift if you're
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able to understand that flexibility and like roll roll with it which is
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something I've never in my life been good at and so Noah Taylor Warner is two
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years old and in his two years of life has taught me more than any human on this planet and the biggest gift that he
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has given me besides his life itself is the lessons of being flexible because it
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is the key to life like nothing is going to go your way and you can learn this lesson in without having children but
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the way that he has taught me this is like such a gift and because I've
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up so many times along the way and his unconditional love has taught me to be a
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better person so I think it is the biggest gift it is the biggest strap
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that is the most beautiful like way to experience emotions in life and also you
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know I am lucky enough I know Sam feels the same way to have a partner who I love watching become a parent too it's
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like completely changed our marriage and challenging and beautiful ways
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um but that is just an incredible thing so I just want to make sure that that's very clear I know Sam will add on to
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that as well but the only other thing that I would add to this episode is this also came up with one of my clients and
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it's something that I've learned myself is as women specifically we need to in
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these postpartum days redefine the word enough and so nothing will ever again
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feel like enough because of the world that we live in and I want you to know
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whatever you do when you're taking care of another life is enough and I think
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that that's something that I've learned over and over again again it's like in recovery from a very severe Fitness
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Obsession I think you would call it eating disorder you know my relationship
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with Fitness that still comes up for me as like was that enough like yes it
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was but like that understanding of that definition and movement in eating in
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cleaning your house in what clothes you're wearing in whatever it is to you
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getting out of bed in the morning and putting somebody else's needs before your own and also making a little bit of
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time for yourself is enough and like I just need people to know and understand that like I used to have like a two-hour
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self-care routine in the morning like now I light a candle I take a deep breath and I'm like let's start our okay
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right and that's enough in the early postpartum days I always tell new moms
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that like you can't prioritize anything make sure you stay hydrated because it's the most important thing that you can do
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for your body at this time and if you can do that that's enough and like if we
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can rewire our thought process to whatever we can do is enough you will save yourself so much stress
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okay now that was so good drop the mic there I'll just add my little tidbit
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because I'm so happy you brought this back around to like being a mom is so
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cool and like amazing and it's also the most challenging thing but
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isn't that funny how that's like a parallel with food Freedom like like going on a journey of food freedom
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and finding food freedom and and truly dismantling diet culture is one of the
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hardest things and it's one of the most rewarding things because then you get to actually enjoy life oh my
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gosh how cool um so I think for me personally I shared a little bit how like we went through
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three rounds of IVF we were told it was IVF or nothing there was no way to get pregnant and IVF is not a guarantee I
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only knew IVF and like a celebrity world before I went through it so I was like oh like we'll just like have a kid it'll
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be great um but it's not a guarantee and we had some failed rounds so when like Sienna was actually born
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and and even now every day I just stare at her and I'm like how are you real
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like you were in a Petri dish I don't understand you were outside of my body and then they put you back in like holy
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and that like understanding like I didn't know much about conception before
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IVF because again we don't learn much like that's our culture um we are all miracles like every single
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human being and so not only like my daughter do I just stare at heart I'm like your eyelashes your nose like that
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is like everything's crazy but like all humans now I just like look around and I'm like we were all such Miracles and
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life is like this is very broad but like life is so short and it is such a
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miracle so this bringing it back to diet culture and motherhood is just like
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enjoy we we all want to be present and enjoy life I think we can all agree with
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that and so that's why it is so important to show up give yourself Grace
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and be be enough in whatever way that that means to you so I just went on a
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really weird tangent there but I just feel like we're all miracles like all four of us Miracles
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again like weird like Inception in places where like it's just so weird it's just wild
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um I was gonna say you guys must be podcasters with the way that you like tie everything together so well like
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food Freedom diet culture motherhood positive negative it's just so great I feel like this has been such a great
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episode well ladies thank you again so so much for the early wake-up call and coming on today it's been such a pleasure having you and talking about
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this very sensitive but very important topic we again their listeners are gonna love this episode
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um why don't we wrap this up by letting our listeners know where or where they can find you at if they want to hear more
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well we have to have you guys on our podcast we'll have to do another early morning wake up and you can find Sam and
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I both on Instagram at what the actual Fork pod or wherever you listen to your
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podcast um what the actual Fork pod is where you can find US Weekly on Fridays I
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personally am at happystrong healthy.rd on all the platforms
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um I don't know which is my favorite today I'm kind of mad at both of them but it's the same username on Instagram
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and tick tock yes and like Jenna said what the actual Fork pod on Insta you can find us both
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or you can find me on Instagram at find.food.freedom or just find food freedom on Tick Tock
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um all all the things you'll see there all the things what we will think of all below too so you guys can find it easy
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well thank you so much for coming on this was an amazing episode I know our
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listeners will love it we appreciate you managing your very busy schedules to
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come on and we'll definitely make sure that our listeners can check both of you
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out at everything so how oh what we hope that you guys
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enjoyed today's episode have a wonderful rest of your day and we will see you guys next week next week
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bye guys thank you bye guys thank you so much
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